“Whisper I am Sorry with Ziga” Episode Four 

Whisper am Sorry with Ziga

 

There’s no sin too big not to be forgiven, but if you think otherwise kindly share with us below what sin it is. Reconciliation brings peace of mind which in turn opens doors for success. There’s nothing a man who has peace cannot a achieve because the laws of the universe will be falling in place for his success

Incase if you’re a new reader on this platform, this is whisper am sorry with Ziga, a platform where saying sorry is made easy, you no longer have to say sorry all alone, you can now say it together with Ziga under scrutiny by our council of elders.

 

Last month December I had an encounter with a business mogul who told me his personal story on apology and the story goes thus “One faithful day I stepped out on my well-tailored dress, a lady drove pass me with speed and splashed dirty water on me, water enough for me to have a birth. Saying that I was mad was an understatement because I was furious, filled with anger and rage? The lady unlike what we normally see today slowed down while wining down her glass, as I approached her to vent on her, she calmly and politely said sorry to me with voice of sincerity and an apologetic eye. The anger subsided, and I entirely forgot that water was splashed on me, the venom of anger inside of me was diluted immediately. I even had to tell the lady not to worry that the incident happened because of bad road (which was true), had it been the lady didn’t say sorry to me in the manner in which she did, I wouldn’t have considered the fact that water was splashed on me because of bad road, I wouldn’t have even thought of it. The by standers who tried hulling insult on the lady were even calmed down by me, I told them to leave the innocent woman alone, that the incident happened due to bad road”. 

Now you seen for yourself what sorry is capable of doing.

The truth of the matter is that everybody will not have the same reaction to an action but our response to every action goes a long way in defining us, and also defining the outcome of the reactions because is action that beget reaction.

~ Prayer, desperate prayer seems so simple but it’s a step rarely taken by those in family conflict…. Erwin W. Lutzer

~ The search for Jesus is about reconciling loss and tragedy to God and us…. W. Scott

~ If there is to be reconciliation first there must be truth … timothy B. Tyson

~ Moments of kindness and reconciliation are worth having, even if the parting has to come sooner or later….. Alice Munro

~ The truth is unless you let go unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation. Unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward…Dr. Steve Maraboli.

~ I can choose to let it define me, confine me, refine me, outshine me or I can choose to move on and leave it behind me.

~ When thinking about life remember this, no amount of guilt can solve the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future.

~ The funny thing about life is that whether you like me or hate me both are in my favor, if you love me, I will always be in your heart…. If you hate mw I will always be in your mind… William Shakespeare.

~ Don’t forget that in the midst of all your pain and heartache, you are surrounded by beauty, the wonder of creation, art, your music and culture, the sounds of laughter and love, of whispered hopes and celebrations, of new life and transformation, of reconciliation and forgiveness….. W. Paul Young

~ Women must be the spokesmen of a new humanity arising out of the reconciliation of spirit and body…. Carol P. Christ.

 

 

Always remember that we are what we think about, if you’re evil it simply means that you always think of evil and you nurse evil thoughts. Create not enmity in your heart as it adds no value and has never ever been recorded to have added value. There is much more to whisper with Ziga than just reconciliation, kindly bookmark our page and invite your friends to share in this wealth of knowledge of hidden secrets of the universe, I will really appreciate your feedback on this humanity service so do remember to drop a comment below.

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“Whisper am Sorry with Ziga” Episode Three 

Whisper am Sorry with Ziga

 

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.

Pride and ego makes a mockery of an apology, humility wins forgiveness without question….so break your self

The ability of a person to atone has always been the most remarkable of human features.

 

It is time to apologize to whomever you have wronged,

It is time to make peace with your friends both old and new,

It is time to say sorry to your loved ones, it is time to make amend,

It is time for reconciliation

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There are three good step a descent apology message must possess and it includes:

  1. I am sorry
  2. It is my fault
  3. What can I do to make it right?

 

Sometime in the month of December there was a story which circulated on social media about a dead man at Onigbongbo bus stop in Maryland Lagos, it was told that a danfo driver brushed a man’s car, the man alighted from his own car, removed his shoes only to pursue the danfo on bare foot. He actually caught up with the danfo but as he tried to hold unto the danfo bus, the bus conductor pushed him away while the oncoming danfo from behind knocked him down and that was the end of this man’s life leaving his family behind. Permit me to say that prevention is far better than cure as this man’s death could have been avoided if only the young didn’t pursue the danfo or if the conductor hadn’t pushed him away or even if the danfo haven’t brushed his car in the first place. So it is better to avoid what will bring about quarrel and fight than to lose a life in the process, even when you’re 100% right your own life is more precious than the revenge you seek after as human mind can be very deceptive.

 

~ Reconciliation should be accompanied by justice, otherwise it will not last. While we hope for peace it shouldn’t be peace at any cost but peace based on principle and on justice.

~ It is moving beyond past wounds and hurts and building a culture of respect, dignity and flowering love.

~ If there is to be reconciliation, first there must be truth.

~ No matter what the hatred is, preserve the possibility of peace and always have room for forgiveness

~ Reconciliation is more beautiful than victory

~ Reconciliation is a part of the healing process, but how can there be healing when the wounds are still being inflicted?

~ One minute of reconciliation is worth more than a whole life of friendship…. Gabriel Garcia Marquez

~ The worst reconciliation is better than the best divorce….. Miguel De Cervantes

~ Reconciliation is a deep practice that we can do with our listening and our mindful speech. To reconcile means to bring peace and happiness to nations, people, and members of our family…. In order to reconcile you have to possess the art of deep listening…. Nhat Hanh.

It is worthy of note that right actions in the future are the best apologies for bad actions in the past.

“Whisper am Sorry with Ziga” Episode Two

Whisper Am Sorry with Ziga

There is no need to die in silence just as said in the previous episode when you have a platform as this, where you can easily share your feelings with someone who cares.

We sometimes offend people unconsciously, yes! We do, when driving down the market area which happens to be congested, you can unconsciously knock down someone’s goods and at the same time you can be in a hurry to catch up with appointment. At the time of the incident all your attention was on the appointment but after then as humans being a spirit being, you will surely remember your unconscious inhuman act caused by congested road, at that point in time you sincerely need to say sorry and appease the person you’ve caused some pain but it will be very difficult to even locate or identify the person and that is exactly what this platform has been designed for, to say sorry to people you’re unable to meet face to face and also to people you will find it difficult to apologize to. If it will be more comfortable for you sharing your apology message anonymously kindly send it to our email: zigastimeout@gmail.com or inbox any of our social media page on www.facebook.com/zigastimeout, www.twitter.com/zigastimeout, www.instagram.com/zigastimeout.

 

Forgiving yourself of what you did yourself wrong is very vital as some people blame themselves for a past mistake. Although it is normal but you can’t keep blaming yourself forever, remember you just have one life to live and it has no photocopy. The first step to forgiving yourself is to say it out….. I did so so and so, am really sorry for doing it I shouldn’t have done such but please forgive me, if there is any punishment for me I don’t mind serving the punishment. This forgiving one’s self can be so troubling when it has to do with matter of life and death of a loved one, a family member or a special person. But no matter what the problem might be, always remember that to err is human and to forgive is divine, so do keep an open heart in all that you do.

 

For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind. So when an offender says sorry I urge the offended to accept the sorry and move on because no matter how grievous our sins are our Divine Being do forgive us.

If we choose to go by an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth…. The whole world will go blind and toothless.

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, it is not something you do for someone else

We have someone or something to forgive and when we learn how, we become free to increase success in every area of our life. It is now getting clear on the importance of forgiveness to every human as it unlocks one’s success stories. After two friends reconcile of a quarrel the friendship seems to transcend to a new level better than it was before the quarrel, this is a natural thing.

Things you need to know about apology

~ An apology is a lovely perfume, it can transform the clumsiest moment into a gracious gift.

~ Never ruin an apology with an excuse.

~ Would “sorry” have made any difference? Does it ever? It’s just a word, one word against a thousand actions.

~ Never forget the most important words of any family “I love you, you’re beautiful, please forgive me”.

~ An apology is the super glue of life, it can repair just anything

~ Right actions in the future are the best apologies for bad actions in the past

Nothing wrong with apologizing, but saying I am sorry does nothing when you continue to make the same mistakes.

“Whisper Am Sorry with Ziga” Episode One 

Whisper Am Sorry with Ziga

Peace has not the product of a victory or a command, it has no finishing lime no final deadline, no fixed definition of achievement. Peace is a never-ending process, it is the work of many decisions…….unknown

There is really no need to die in silence when you can easily share your story with Ziga and you can say sorry through our platform for we understand how difficult it can be for someone like you to say sorry, is really not as easy as one may think, sometimes to open up and say sorry not knowing how the offended party might react or even what might happen to your ego after saying the sorry becomes a problem. You can easily type your apology message on our comment box below, the holy book urges us to forgive one another and the laws of the universe backs it up through karma, when you hurt someone you will be hurt by another but when there is reconciliation the pains of revenge shall be eliminated.

On the other hand it pays to forgive as Martin Luther the king Jr. once said that “forgiveness is not an occasional act but it is a permanent attitude”.

“Forgiveness is choosing to love, it is the first skill of self-giving love”… Mahandas K. Gandhi.

A weak person can never forgive because forgiveness is an attribute of the strong and I believe that you reading this post is strong, even if you’re not, you will like to be. So pick up your phone and take the bold step of making peace with yourself, your fellow and the universe. When you are truly sorry take that bold step and say it out, you will be free and when you are strong enough to forgive you will be free as well. Do you know that enmity is like a double edged sword because it eats up the offender and also eats up the offended?

On our twitter inbox Emeka from Uyo Nigeria sent a message which reads “I offended my mum by not loving her the way I should have, right now she is no more, can I still apologize to her and how possible is it? Will I be forgiven?”

Ziga’s response: having summon the courage to pour your heart Emeka I believe the universe have heard you and you will be forgiven, whenever you visit home, walk to your mother’s grave, pour out your heart the way you would have done if she was to appear before you, say all you have in your heart, you can say it in form of prayers to the creator of the universe. You can choose to plant a flower on her grave, then you go and hurt yourself no more.

Please if your mother is still alive, show her all the love that she needs. Kindly use the comment box below and give your own personal contribution and advice to Emeka.

~We cannot change the past but we can change our attitude towards the past, uproot guilt plant forgiveness, and tear out arrogance and seed humility, exchange love for hate thereby making the present comfortable and the future promising….unknown

~Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom

~Our anger and annoyance are more detrimental to us than the things themselves which anger or annoy us.

~Mattew 5:39- There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.

~ Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrongs…… Charlotte Bronte.

~People can be more forgiving than you can imagine but you have to forgive yourself, let go of what’s bitter and move on……Bill Cosby

~Peace is not possible without forgiveness….Naomi Drew.

~Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were… Jimmy Carter.

This last quote simply means that anger retards someone while forgiveness paves way for you to grow beyond your imagination as you have no guilt holding you down. Keep to mind that forgiveness is a free gift accessible to all so be sure to possess this wonderful gift and stay away from enmity.