TEMPERAMENT AS IT AFFECTS RELATIONSHIPS

Temperament is the combination of traits one inherited from ones parents. Some said it can be found in the mind or emotional center.

There are basically four types of temperaments- though there can be other types which are called brands of temperament and they are gotten from the combination of one or more of the major four, there are twelve brands of temperaments but it will be enlisted on the next article. No single individual is fully characterized by just one of the temperament, an individual can possess two or more of the temperament depending on the family background, environment or level of education and association. Below in enlisted the major four, their strengths and weaknesses.

 

  1. SANGUINE– Mr. sanguine is a super extrovert, outgoing, responsive, warm and friendly, talkative, enthusiastic, compassionate, he knows how to make everyone around him feel important. One major characteristics of this man is that his mouth enters a room or a compound before his body, before you see him he has seen you, he can easily be noticed or recognized, before you introduce him he has already introduced himself.

Weakness– lacks discipline, emotionally unstable, unproductive, egocentric, and so hyperbolic or exaggerates too much.

 

  1. Choleric– Mr. choleric is strong-willed, independent, visionary, practical, productive, decisive, a leader, self-sufficient, an extrovert, fearless, needs no stimulation from his environment rather stimulates his environment himself. One of his major characteristics is that he strongly believe that there can always be a solution so long as you do something positive about it.

Weakness– unforgiving, domineering, sarcastic, he can be termed an opportunist, angry, cruel, cold and unemotional, he hardly show sympathy.

 

  1. Melancholy– Mr. melancholy is highly gifted, analytical, aesthetic, self-sacrificing, industrious, self-disciplined. He enjoys works of art, the richest of all the temperaments, he can be an introvert or an extrovert depending on his mood, hardly express his true feelings as the desire to be loved, hardly makes friends be a very faithful one if he becomes one. Majorly characterized by his perfectionist nature, as we wants everything to be placed orderly as organized as possible.

Weakness– moody (mood swings), self-centered, persecution-prone, revengeful, touchy, theoretical, unsociable a times, critical, negative at times, can easily get depressed but most enriched with potentials when motivated.

 

  1. Phlegmatic– Mr. phlegmatic is the most likeable of all the temperaments as he hardly gets angry, easy-going, calm, quiet, dependable, objective, diplomatic, efficient, organized, practical, humorous, he possess a well-balanced temperament, natural peace maker, can be a good imitator, when motivated into action always gives in the best, has dry sense of humor. His major characteristics is his consistency ability and never seems to be agitated.

Weaknesses-unmotivated, procrastinator, selfish, stingy, self-protective, indecisive, fearful, worrier.

 

It is worthy of note that no temperament is better than the other and understanding you partners temperament will go a long way in helping you understand why he/she acts in a certain way. Their weakness is not there for you to use it against them but for you to understand, accommodate and join effort with them to live above those weaknesses, learn to appreciate their enormous strengths as you have seen for yourself no human being is living without a fault. All temperaments are habitable though some are more compatible than another but if you have already made your choice live well with it. Thank you so much for your time, if you have contributions to make kindly use the comment section and to also ask a question. For counseling join our facebook page at zigastimeout, send a direct message (dm) to the page for quick response, Ziga and her team will be ever willing and ready to assist.

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ANGER CONTROL

Anger Management

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ANGER IS a feeling, a strong unhappy feeling of being treated unfairly. It is an uncomfortable feeling where by one can be unable to relax.

Anger being a feeling can be controlled, you can choose to control your feeling or allow your feeling control you.

The way someone responds to anger is all about the person’s mindset, the person’s environment and the person’s sense of reasoning in respect to maturity and level of exposure. It takes maturity for a husband to understand that when his wife calls him an idiot that the wife is equally calling herself an idiot for marrying an idiot because is only an idiot that will get married to an idiot. It also takes a higher level of exposure to understand that the illiterate bus conductor who calls you Ode for not alighting fast from his bus did so because he has been eaten up by frustration, so turning back to give him back his dose only denote that you down grade yourself to his level of frustration or you step up to a higher level of maturity and move on as the name calling Ode did not add nor remove any value from your personality.

Controlling anger has so much to do one a person’s level of understanding, some certain aspect of ones level of exposure, having the right mindset, possessing love and being controlled by love. Controlling anger has nothing to do with age. Controlling anger is like having control over your feeling for instance if you’re highly disciplined no matter how hungry you feel, you can never stoop low to steal food. If am right that means you can easily control hunger and not allow is to destroy your self-image, so in the same way you can equally choose to control your feeling of anger and have it not destroy your self-image.

Getting angry over a spilt milk is a total waste of precious energy which could have been invested elsewhere. Yes! The milk has been spilt is that it has been spilt there’s nothing you can do about the spilt milk to reverse it all because you have no control over it, so do you not equally have control over some certain actions and the highest you can do is to make yourself another milk, if is myself I will personally make a more quality milk this time around.

 

To effectively have control over anger there are some anger management courses you can opt in for but below I have some tips one can embrace to control anger and most of the tips are equally used my anger management coaches.

  1. Stop, stop whatever that it is making you angry, if is a discussion or argument stop it. At this point you don’t have to lose control of your fist, instead of hitting somebody you can hit the wall or blow the air
  2. Give yourself space from the heat of the argument, as you tried to stop what’s making you angry, get yourself out from that environment because the more you stay there the more likely you’re to lose control. You can even take a stroll, listen to good music and try refocusing your mind towards things that make you happy.
  3. Breathe deeply, taking a deep breathe can help you calm your nerves. Counting numbers can help you while embarking on this exercise.
  4. Analyze your cause of anger, when you must been in a relaxed state of mind try analyzing the cause of the problem as that will enable you to define the problem and know the cause of the outburst at times you might even realize that you were the one at fault.
  5. Solve and move on, if the fault is from you apologize make peace and move on, if not let the other party know where they’ve wronged you and open up to forgive them as well and move on, please this life is too short to be angry over anything.

 

The utmost way to have control over anger is to have self-love which will enable you to rightly place yourself in the other person’s situation and also enable you to see things from love perspective rather than from hate perspective. There various method and approaches one can use to control anger, please share what works well for you on the comment box.

WHAT TO DO WHEN HE IGNORES YOU

Being ignored sucks right? Some will literally say silence is the best answer to a fool, while some will preferably say silence is golden but the truth of the matter is that it hurts really bad when someone you love or someone who claims to love you ignores you without saying a word. What do you do when a man ignores you? Some really don’t know what to do, some might even begin to blame themselves for the blackout ouch is not worth it especially if you’ve done nothing wrong. Below are somethings worth doing when being ignored by a man?

  • Ignore him, though this might sound stupid but what point is it forcing yourself where you belong not? If he likes you well enough he will ask you what the problem is, is not every guy that likes a girl who can be easily seduced or girls who chase after men. Be sure to always find a middle ground and so not go too extreme. There is no reason to give attention to one who doesn’t recognize your existence.

  • Be sure of yourself, know who you are, what you want and what you’re worth. Adopt a posture that highlights you, your back straight with your head held high. Let your fashion speak of you I mean the real you. You’re a woman and you ought to trust in yourself and be ready to show it. Don’t let an external force define you. You may not truly know the man in and out but he also might not truly know all about you, so you have to be sure of yourself to enable him know what he is dealing with.

  • Judge not too fast, is really not so good to quickly jump into conclusion on the reason why he ignores you. There could be many reasons for that, that he ignores you might not necessarily mean he’s not interested in you and it does not necessarily define who he really is, he could have been: shy, been in a serious relationship but just looking out for a fling, be looking for a woman with another quality or he is yet to define what he want in a woman or he is trying to understand your kind of person. So is really not so wise to judge a book by its cover.

  • Do not wait after him, continue to live your life just as you’ve been doing before you noticed it. It is not up to you to put his nose in order, there’s no need siting close to phone and waiting for his calls or texts.

  • Some will say taste the map of jealousy, when a other guys come to you do not push them back, stay polite and courteous. If the man ignoring you doesn’t know you but like you he will find you well educated and above all that you like other men so he will have a click that will cause him to react quickly enough he does not lose his chances with you.

  • Be natural and desirable, no matter your morphology like all women you must have a secret weapon that makes men crack, it could be your eyes, your silhouette or your smile make sure to highlight your assets. Be natural and desirable by choosing clothing that suits you and that highlights you. Please do not dress to kill or impress. Stay true to yourself and avoid doing or wearing what you are not used to doing or wearing.

Note: the more natural you’re, the more likely you are that a man will cease to ignore you. To be natural does not mean to tie wrapper across your burst and hit the street.

If you apply this principles with common sense when a man ignores you, sure you will have the answers to your questions. It will become obvious to you if he ignores you because he is not interested in you or if he is the shy type, or if is part of his techniques of seduction. Kindly share your opinion with us on the comment box below.

“Whisper I am Sorry with Ziga” Episode Four 

Whisper am Sorry with Ziga

 

There’s no sin too big not to be forgiven, but if you think otherwise kindly share with us below what sin it is. Reconciliation brings peace of mind which in turn opens doors for success. There’s nothing a man who has peace cannot a achieve because the laws of the universe will be falling in place for his success

Incase if you’re a new reader on this platform, this is whisper am sorry with Ziga, a platform where saying sorry is made easy, you no longer have to say sorry all alone, you can now say it together with Ziga under scrutiny by our council of elders.

 

Last month December I had an encounter with a business mogul who told me his personal story on apology and the story goes thus “One faithful day I stepped out on my well-tailored dress, a lady drove pass me with speed and splashed dirty water on me, water enough for me to have a birth. Saying that I was mad was an understatement because I was furious, filled with anger and rage? The lady unlike what we normally see today slowed down while wining down her glass, as I approached her to vent on her, she calmly and politely said sorry to me with voice of sincerity and an apologetic eye. The anger subsided, and I entirely forgot that water was splashed on me, the venom of anger inside of me was diluted immediately. I even had to tell the lady not to worry that the incident happened because of bad road (which was true), had it been the lady didn’t say sorry to me in the manner in which she did, I wouldn’t have considered the fact that water was splashed on me because of bad road, I wouldn’t have even thought of it. The by standers who tried hulling insult on the lady were even calmed down by me, I told them to leave the innocent woman alone, that the incident happened due to bad road”. 

Now you seen for yourself what sorry is capable of doing.

The truth of the matter is that everybody will not have the same reaction to an action but our response to every action goes a long way in defining us, and also defining the outcome of the reactions because is action that beget reaction.

~ Prayer, desperate prayer seems so simple but it’s a step rarely taken by those in family conflict…. Erwin W. Lutzer

~ The search for Jesus is about reconciling loss and tragedy to God and us…. W. Scott

~ If there is to be reconciliation first there must be truth … timothy B. Tyson

~ Moments of kindness and reconciliation are worth having, even if the parting has to come sooner or later….. Alice Munro

~ The truth is unless you let go unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation. Unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward…Dr. Steve Maraboli.

~ I can choose to let it define me, confine me, refine me, outshine me or I can choose to move on and leave it behind me.

~ When thinking about life remember this, no amount of guilt can solve the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future.

~ The funny thing about life is that whether you like me or hate me both are in my favor, if you love me, I will always be in your heart…. If you hate mw I will always be in your mind… William Shakespeare.

~ Don’t forget that in the midst of all your pain and heartache, you are surrounded by beauty, the wonder of creation, art, your music and culture, the sounds of laughter and love, of whispered hopes and celebrations, of new life and transformation, of reconciliation and forgiveness….. W. Paul Young

~ Women must be the spokesmen of a new humanity arising out of the reconciliation of spirit and body…. Carol P. Christ.

 

 

Always remember that we are what we think about, if you’re evil it simply means that you always think of evil and you nurse evil thoughts. Create not enmity in your heart as it adds no value and has never ever been recorded to have added value. There is much more to whisper with Ziga than just reconciliation, kindly bookmark our page and invite your friends to share in this wealth of knowledge of hidden secrets of the universe, I will really appreciate your feedback on this humanity service so do remember to drop a comment below.

SEE WHAT HAPPENS WHEN HE IS NOT THE ONE, WHY WASTE IN AN AIMLESS RELATIONSHIP? 

By Ziga

A good relationship is when two people accept each other’s past, support each other’s present, and love each other enough to encourage each other’s future. So don’t rush love, find a partner who encourages you to grow, who won’t ding to you, who will let you go out into the world, and trust that you will come back. This is what true love is all about and it’s always worth the wait.

 

A relationship means you come together to make each other better. It’s not all about you, and it’s not all about them. It’s all about us, it’s all about the relationship. Support them in their dream, vision just as much as you would expect them to support you. Make each other better, challenge each other to go beyond average. Pull out the greatness from within each other. Make sure they can find their biggest fan in you and you can find yours in them…….. Trent Shelton.
 Here are some warning actions below which clearly comes up when he is not meant for you. The points can also be applicable to female when she’s not into you but you ought to understand that 80% of the guys don’t value girls that chase after them. 
* He only contacts you at night, sweetheart you’re not valued 

  • He follows you not on social media

  • He just meet you and wants you to come over and chill or wants to come over to chill. 

  • Please come over my parents aren’t home. Run! 

  • He doesn’t let you touch his phone, if his phone is always faced down when dropped on the table. 

  • If he doesn’t save your number

  • If you’re only remembered when he is drunk

  • If he can go for days without talking to you, like two to three days…sweetheart you’re not on his level.  

  • When he always gives you non tangible excuse for avoiding communication with you.  

  • If he distance himself from you in public but gets close to you indoors…sweetheart he is a fuckboy

  • If he has so much thirsty girls around him. 

  • When issues come up they always put the blame on you even when they’re at fault,  they never accepts their mistakes and takes no responsibility for their actions. 

  • Watch how he treats his mother, if is not good don’t expect him to perform magic

  • If he has no plan for his future,  Do you really need a guy who cares not about his future and personality. 

  • He choose not to define the relationship,  even after weeks and days passby.

  • You’ve been in relationship for years and he doesn’t like title,  like seriously?  Who does?  Find someone who does.  

  • When he withdraws himself for no good reason, you can choose to ask what the problem is but always remember that a good guy is suppose to go after what he want not the other way round.  

  • If everyone tells you that he is a flirt, sweetheart everyone can’t be lying as every rumour has an atom of truth so ask yourself a sincere question. 

 Finally is worthy of note that when a guy want you he will tell you and also act it not just words alone, he will make it obvious through various means, be sure to identify the kind of want he want as he can equally want you just for sex alone and nothing more. The above list is not the final say and might not really be complete kindly add your own view or experience as I will learn a lot from it likewise others. 

 

​EASY STEP TO MAKING RAW APPLE CIDER VINEGAR

By ZTO Reader

Guidelines on making approximately 1 gallon of apple cider vinegar. 

Ingredients

5 large apples of your choice or scraps of 10 apples

Filtered water

1 cup raw, local honey or organic cane sugar
Equipment

1 wide mouth gallon glass jar.

Cheesecloth or floursack cloth. 

Large rubber band
Instructions

Before you can make your raw apple cider vinegar, you must first make hard apple cider. The alcohol in the hard cider is what transforms via fermentation into acetic acid, which is the beneficial organic compound that gives apple cider vinegar its sour taste.
Wash the apples and coarsely chop into pieces no smaller than 1 inch. Cores, stems and seeds may be included.

Put the chopped apples into a 1 gallon, clean, wide mouth, glass jar. Please do not brew your apple cider vinegar in

stainless steel pots , as the acidic vinegar will causing leaching of heavy metals such as carcinogenic nickel.

The chopped apples should at least fill half the container and maybe a bit more. If at least half the container is not filled, add additional apple scraps until you achieve this level as a minimum.

Pour in room temperature filtered water until the chopped apples are completely covered and the container is just about full leaving a couple of inches at the top.

Stir in the raw honey or cane sugar until fully dissolved.

Cover the top of the glass jar with cheesecloth, a thin white dishtowel or floursack cloth and secure with a large rubber band.

Leave on the counter for about 1-2 weeks, gently mixing once or twice a day. Bubbles will begin to form as the sugar ferments into alcohol. You will smell this happening.

When the apple scraps no longer float and sink to the bottom of the jar after approximately one week, the hard apple cider is ready. If for some reason, the apple pieces still do not sink to the bottom after 2 weeks but the mixture smells alcoholic, proceed to the next step anyway.

Strain out the apple scraps and pour the hard apple cider into a fresh 1 gallon glass jar or smaller sized mason jars of your choosing.

Cover with a fresh piece of cheesecloth and secure with a rubberband.

Leave on the counter in an out of the way spot for an additional 3-4 weeks to allow the alcohol to transform into acetic acid by the action of acetic acid bacteria  A small amount of sediment on the bottom is normal. In addition, a mother culture will form on top 

Taste your raw apple cider vinegar to determine if it is ready starting after 3 weeks. If it has the right level of vinegar taste for you, strain it one more time and store in clean, glass mason jars or jugs. If after 4 weeks, the taste still isn’t quite strong enough, leave it for another week and try again. If you accidentally leave it too long and the taste is too strong, just strain and dilute with some water to a level of acidity that pleases you.

Use as desired and store in the pantry out of direct sunlight.

Raw apple cider vinegar doesn’t go bad, but if you leave it for a long time, another mother culture will likely form on top. This is fine, just strain it again if desired and dilute with a bit of water if the taste has become too strong.
Hint: Your homemade batch of apple cider vinegar can be used not only in the kitchen, but also as a vinegar bath (2 cups per tubful) to greatly aid detoxification. 

It can also be used to make a vinegar compress for sprains and bruises. This is what people used before ice was readily available, and raw vinegar works extremely well too!

 HOMEMADE REMEDY FOR  FIGHTING FIBROIDS AND CYSTS

By ZTO Reader

Ovarian myomas and cysts are a health problem that many women face. Thousands of women all around the world are diagnosed with these conditions, especially young people and those who are about to enter the menopause.
These cysts and fibroids usually appear for no apparent reason. While it is true that myomas and ovarian cysts are not a serious problem, they can cause us a lot of pain and discomfort. That is a strong reason why we should detect and combat them in time.
A myoma is nothing more than a benign tumor that forms on the muscular layer of the uterus. There, it begins to develop and grow in such a way that it can affect our health and cause us pain.It is true that it is not considered a serious health problem. But this does not mean that we should neglect, must be attacked by a specialist to avoid risks. Generally, its development is promoted by a hormonal imbalance.

Below is how you can prepare simple juice which can solve your problem with cysts and fibroids quickly!
Ingredients:
0.25 liter of honey;

1 liter of beet juice.

How to prepare it: first you must count on the preciously prepared beet juice, or buy an already prepared one. When you have the beet juice, place it into a blender and add the honey, and liquefy them.
Dosage: Take 1 glass of the juice with every meal daily. One glass after breakfast, one after lunch, and one after dinner. In a few days the cysts and myomas will go away.